ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING

ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING…

Hey friends…!!!Welcome to my blog…I’m glad that you took out some time from your busy schedule to read it. Thank you very much…Writing down about our experiences in life is probably the best way to express our self and connect with different people. Be it good or bad, sharing our feelings always make us feel better. In fact, sometimes it will help others to resolve their problems!!I take this opportunity to share my experience with you which might help you get over some of your troubles and worries smoothly. Well, I’m –MeghaV.Melgiri, married and currently staying at Bangalore.

I’m basically from North Karnataka from a place called Gadag. I completed my B.E in the year 2010 and I started looking for a good job like how all freshers normally do. My immediate aim in life after graduation was to get a good job and make a good career. I finally got an offer on 30^th of September 2010.I was about to join my training from 18^th of October and I was very happy about it...But, who knew what life had in store for me!!!!????Unfortunately, I met with a major car accident on 15^th of October when I was on my way with my pappa (dad) to receive my fiancée Harsh. The saddest part was, it was his birthday.  Very unfortunate! I remember it was a Friday!! Bad Friday in my life. I was trembling with pain and nervousness. It was a deep shock for all of us. All I can say is it was a bad time for all of us.  By God’s grace we both are alive today. My dad was conscious enough to call an ambulance for me and I was taken to a nearby hospital within few minutes. Immediate dressing was done and I was taken for MRI and X-ray scanning centre. Since I was completely conscious then, I remember each and everything. From the scan reports it was clear that I had no head injuries and I was out of danger but I had multiple fractures. The hospital was not well equipped and had no expertise to treat such fractures so I was taken to Bombay Hospital in an ambulance. Reaching Mumbai was not an easy task at all…It’s a 14 hours journey from my place. My maternal uncle, mom and my fiancée handled the things carefully till we reached Mumbai safely…the real story begins now…Half of the battle was won when we met Dr.Jhunjhunwala who is believed to be one of the best orthopaedic surgeons in Mumbai. He is like “God “to me. All the credit goes to him for having treated me so well and making my life more beautiful than before. Without any delay they decided to operate me on 18^th of October. I was very nervous when I heard about the way it would be done, quite natural to feel so. Isn’t it? That night I was unable to sleep since the pain was unbearable and was worried about my entire life ahead as to how would I face it with this condition…I was feeling very helpless…I cried at my bad luck. My dream about making a good career got shattered! I was going to get married on 24^th January 2011, but, everything was postponed. My mom who was in a big shock stood beside me all the time. She suffered more than I did   ...without her love, care, affection and support I wouldn’t have been this capable. Hats off to her dedication and sacrifice. My love to her………… Next morning I was asked to be prepared for the operation. I was taken to the O.T. (Operation theatre) around 1:30 p.m. I could not control my tears when I saw my mom and my relatives standing at the door of the O.T. wishing me “all the best Megha, you’ll be all fine”. My mind started trembling with fear and nervousness, but, I was so helpless that I was compelled to gather my guts and co-operate with the doctors. Since it was a major operation it took about four and a half hours. I was shivering like anything with pain, later; I was shifted to I.C.U where I was kept under observation for 24 hours. It was a nightmare!  Harsh, my mom and my uncle were beside me all the night. I suffered and cried out of pain that night and I realised what PAIN actually means! Next Morning was a different day, indeed! I was shifted to the ward where everyone was waiting to meet me. Two more operations were to be done after a couple of days. But, the level of confidence and will power I developed helped me a lot during my second surgery as well as my recovery. After all the operations were done I was made to take up a physiotherapy course. Initially it was very painful but as and when I started doing it regularly it gave me a lot of confidence. Recovery phase is the real test of your patience, determination and will power! Regular physiotherapy exercises have helped me a lot in strengthening my muscles and bringing them back to normalcy. Those days Dr.Jhunjhunwala was my strength and confidence. I was feeling very low one day and my doctor came for his routine rounds, he could feel that I was not in a mood to talk to anyone. This is what he said to cheer me up- “You don’t have to be upset about anything when you have such  a loving and caring family who are ready to make any kind of help and sacrifice for your well-being, you are a very lucky girl so cheer-up and start doing your exercises. Keep saying “GOD IS GREAT while you are doing your exercises, this will help you a lot. Will see you tomorrow” and he left. His words changed my life and my belief and faith in GOD grew stronger. Believe me; it gave me a lot of confidence and strength and it filled positive energy all around. Day after day there was a lot of improvement in my overall health which filled my life with happiness and the smile on my face was back. But, there was a lot to achieve yet. Since my left femur had a fracture which after treatment had lost its strength, it was initially difficult for me to start with my walking exercise. With rigorous physiotherapy I could gain back my strength in a couple of months and started walking with a walker comfortably at home. My parents and my brother used to take me out for a walk regularly which helped me in building my confidence of walking. With a long gap of about four months it’s quite natural that one will tend to forget the style of walking. Nevertheless, it can be regained by practice. Initially I was told to take about 50% of my body weight on my left leg. Later on when I was told to take up to 75% of my body weight I started using a walking stick for about 4-6 weeks and the level of confidence grew higher. I was bed ridden for almost 5 months and when I started walking on my own I used to do most of the things without anybody’s help which in turn reduced my mother’s work load.

Gradually I stopped using the stick and started walking with little support like a wall, a chair, a table etc...This went for about four weeks. Later I started walking without any support, it was an amazing feeling!! Felt like I was a free bird. With little bit of limping I managed to walk, but, with difficulty. I felt that I was the happiest person on earth!! After the end of 8^th month I could walk properly and now I’m absolutely fine. Got married to Harsh on 5th July 2011. Everyone appreciated my constant determination, will-power and positive attitude which made me sail through this traumatic phase smoothly. It’s a small piece of advice for all those who are reading and those who are suffering- By now you might have understood why “ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING”  so friends, never lose your confidence and determination when you are going through such phase. You must look at it in a positive way which will help you to recover faster. Try to fill positive energy around you and keep smiling.

Try to involve yourself in some task, be it; painting, reading good books will help you a lot, music will really help you to relax…be occupied with some work so that your mind will remain fresh and calm. End of the day you must feel that you are better than what you were yesterday. Time is the only medicine to heal any ailment. So, be patient, cool, take it easy and one day you will come out flying. All that I can say is “I came out stronger and better after this incident and now I’m much more confident than before”. I’m sure you are feeling much better after reading my blog. I wish you all the very best and a speedy recovery. May God bless you.

 Finally, I would like to thank all my family members and friends for being by my side and extending their help to me and my parents during our difficult times. My special thanks to my husband for his true love and absolute support throughout.   

My love and regards,

Megha Melgiri